Kink,Fetish and Perversion!

This is an interesting topic for me as because I am an escort I often share special thoughts and desires of people that visit me.

 As sex is not an open subject in many conversations we really have no idea what is commonly liked and disliked. 

Some of the more drastic perversions are often reported in the public media and we can gain some idea of what most people think as a result of the reaction.

Nonetheless, it is a very grey area and one that I continue to be confused about..Is visiting an escort or being an escort a kink or a fetish? Is it a perversion?

I read on a blog the following.

fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body, so i think that guy has an underwear fetish. perversion is the action of perverting something (tuning it to a wrong use)

The last part interests me as accoding to many religious organisations sex is to do with procreation. So is sex for fun a perversion. So we are all perverts then!!!

On the subject of 'fetish and 'kink' another writer has informed us that,

there is a huge difference between an actual "fetish" and a "kink" according to the psychological community...a fetish is something that a person absolutely NEEDS in order to become sexually turned on. what we call a kink, is just a little sexual quirk about a person, something they really enjoy, something that turns them on in a special way, something extra, icing on the cake...but can get turned on sexually with or without these things...so i guess i really have no real "fetishes", cause apparently, a TRUE fetishist is absolutely fixated on the object or act which turns them on...so a true fetish is more like an obsession than a turn-on. interesting. so i have tons of kinks, but no true fetishes...hmmm.

Here are some images Google places under 'fetish'.

So I do meet many people with a fetish and also many, many with a kink. I have men who cannot get erections if I do not wear a certain pair of tights or stockings. Others need me to do things to them before they can get hard. This they demand every visit. This I would term a 'fetish'. It is where you are locked into a thing or act and find sex impossible without this.

These are images Google gives when you search 'kink'.

A kink as a sexual quirk is something we all have I think. I enjoy food, for example, but I enjoy it more if it is served and delivered in a certain way. I can eat the food without this but get more enjoyment if it follows a certain preferred manner. So it is with sex. I enjoy penetration any way but I much prefer the man on top fucking me hard. I also like his fingers to explore my anus when this is happening. I always orgasm when this happens but not always in other positions.

But as I have said before, sex is a very grey area with little understanding of what generally happens when people get it together. Some people's kink is another person's fetish. And there are some people who would call all of it perverted.

The difference for me between 'kink', 'fetish' and perversion is that the first two involves all parties to be in agreement and to be having equal enjoyment. I am happy to 'pee' over you as long as you enjoy being 'peed' over.

A perversion on the otherhand is where you gain sexual gratification from doing something where the other involved parties are not in agreement, not mentally able to understand the act or where the law has made it illegal. The latter can be open to discussion as we mentioned in the last blog on anal sex.

Here is Googles take on perversion. I am not sure I totally agree but as I said sex is a very misunderstood subject and open to debate.

So visiting an escort can be normal, it can be a 'kink', it can also be a 'fetish'. It can also be a perversion if the escort is being forced to do it.

I do not like perverts, but I do love people with a 'kink, people with a 'fetish' and I am also happy to have NORMAL sex too!!!!!

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